Guys: A word of advice. Marry pretty women or ugly ones. Short ones or tall ones. Blondes or brunettes. Just, whatever you do, don't marry a woman with a career.
Why? Because if many social scientists are to be believed, you run a higher risk of having a rocky marriage. While everyone knows that marriage can be stressful, recent studies have found professional women are more likely to get divorced, more likely to cheat, less likely to have children, and, if they do have kids, they are more likely to be unhappy about it. A recent study in Social Forces, a research journal, found that women--even those with a "feminist" outlook--are happier when their husband is the primary breadwinner.
This isn't that hard to understand. In marriage, the man's obligation is to ensure the happiness of his wife, while her obligation is to provide for the happiness of her husband. Most importantly, both must put aside their own happiness for that of the children. A career woman will not give up her job, either for her husband or for her children. As such, as soon as the marriage becomes burdensome, she will terminate it--which, considering that she spends sixty hours a week at the office, could be quick in coming. With responsibility comes sacrifice, and the enormous task of having children requires an immense amount. If a woman does not wish to sacrifice to create a family, the man who wishes to raise one would be wise to avoid her.
Plumerina has no grasp of this basic concept.
I am a single woman in my late 20s with a career I hide from men because of articles like these that fuel such primitive behavior. I was forced into this mode of resourcefulness because I am the only other household earner in my immediate family with 4 other dependents of whom both are sick, whom I must provide for should anything happen to the primary earner. What a woman wouldn't do for love of her family....
To get dates, I pretend I make a lot less than I do, tweak my chat to appear less intimidating, wear shorts and flip-flops all day, and don't tell men what I do for a living. I do not discuss work, and always shrug it off when men ask me what I do. I tell them I'm a freelancer, when in truth, I am COO of a mission-critical company that services a global industry.
I look harmless enough, above-average in looks, wear lipgloss, flutter my eyelids, chuckle like a surfergirl, have a Hawaiian smile, ride a bicycle, wear sneakers, drive a retro junk, and hang out at the beach all day. And I'm very, very lonely because the moment I expose what I do for a living, they all run away like I have leukemia or leprosy.
Here comes the kicker.
Here comes the kicker.
Note that her inability to find a suitable partner is not her problem. No one likes me, therefore something must be wrong with them. If you can point out the fallacy in this sort of thinking, you're too clever to be a feminist.
I think it pertinent to interject that I also do not get many dates. It is true that I don't seek them often or diligently, but the point remains. Yet I take full responsibility for my bachelorhood. If, when I later decide to find myself a wife, the task proves troublesome, the responsibility will remain my own.
Anyway, the modern feminist thinks she understands the male mind. In reality, she hasn't a clue. Empowered woman thinks she can change man and mold him, not only to like her, but in such a way that she will like him. This process inevitably fails; either she sucessfully changes him into what she wants--a subservient little slave--whereupon she despises him, for he is no longer a man; or she fails and dies bitter and unhappy, as I'm afraid Plumerina seems likely to do. A real man does not allow himself to be changed; this does not mean that he is unchangeable, but it does suggest that the process of becoming is wholly up to him.
Someone might interject that I am likewise clueless when it comes to the female mind. I fully acknowledge this. But as a man, I have some idea about what my half of the species wants. We do not want a woman who feels the need to prove her supremacy--or equity--by, curiously, pretending to be a man. We do, however, like the feminine creature. We respect that which we do not understand; we cherish and protect that which has been entrusted to us.
In short, while we might forever be puzzled by, what my friend Patrick called the eighth wonder of the world, we do like women--women, that is, who remember what their feminine essence entails. The career woman seems to have forgotten. Is it surprising that men have forgotten her?
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There was once a rash upon our society called borderline personality disorder. Its called borderline in the fact that it seems these people are borderline insane, at least to the standards of early psychology (1800’s). And who are the victims of this condition, homebound housewives. The working husband ignored what she wanted or could not fulfill those desires and in an effort to get the attention she needed she acted out. The problem with this is the behavior is prone to feedback; that is the more unsatisfied they become the more they act out and the more they act out the less satisfied they become because people ignore them so as not having to deal with their antics.
So in any relationship there must be respect between all involved, the woman to the man and the man to the woman.
You say, “A career woman will not give up her job…” There is the assumption that a career woman must be radically driven, and that there is no level of satisfaction that would allow both job and family. Not every career woman has to spend sixty hours in the office. Also the woman might not have to sacrifice the career for children as the number of fathers at home is on the rise. But again if she cannot limit the commitment to the job then the same thing that used to happen to housewives will happen to house fathers.
“Note that her inability to find a suitable partner is not her problem.” The shifting of blame and the lack of introspection are the first steps to borderline. I know this because once lived that life. And as being male the borderline affliction is not limited to females.
“the modern feminist thinks she understands the male mind.” You make this statement like you understand the feminist mind. No one knows what goes on inside another persons head, all we can do is empathize, we know ourselves and we project us on them and guess.
“Empowered woman thinks she can change man and mold him…” Change the sexes here and you just might have the situation that we had fifty years ago, and certainly the situation we had a hundred years ago and before then. We always have been and are still a patriarchal society but we are changing women are gaining power and stature, to what extent I do not know.
What does the “feminine essence” entail? I hope that it does not entail being “a subservient little slave” like that the historical woman has been.
I for one would like a woman who can be my equal particularly my intellectual equal. A woman who is my equal will push me to grow and I in turn will help her grow. I want a woman who isn’t materialistic, who is personally deep. As I have said before, “beauty might get my attention but a personality will keep my attention.”
Unfortunately what I want in a woman is a tall order and one among other reasons why I am still single.
So in any relationship there must be respect between all involved, the woman to the man and the man to the woman.
Agreed. Assuming I get married, and, further assuming that as per my wishes my wife stays at home to raise our children, I will repect her more for doing this, not less.
There is the assumption that a career woman must be radically driven, and that there is no level of satisfaction that would allow both job and family.
Yes, that is my assumption. A career woman is radically driven; a woman with a job is not. The latter presents no problem, whereas the former is intolerable to most men, myself included.
The shifting of blame and the lack of introspection are the first steps to borderline.
They are also undesirable characteristics in a mate, and the presence thereof is indicative of one who, like the career woman, is still woefully clinging to adolescence.
You make this statement like you understand the feminist mind.
I claim little understanding, but I can make educated guesses based on their asinine statements, just as someone who reads this blog has some idea of the way my mind works.
[W]omen are gaining power and stature, to what extent I do not know.
To the extent that men are no longer attracted to them; to the extent that they will create a mommy-state by giving over civil liberties to this state; and to the extent that most men have been emasculated to a point wherein they are wholly unable to change the way things now are.
What does the “feminine essence” entail? I hope that it does not entail being “a subservient little slave” like that the historical woman has been.
I cannot claim to know what the feminine essence is, but I do know that the career woman is anything but. A feminine woman isn't a subservient little slave, but she isn't a whiny brat either.
Biblically speaking, the role of women is fairly clear, and, as this seemed to work for 2000 years, I see no reason to change, especially given the fetid fruits of feminism.
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